{"id":13213,"date":"2024-03-25T01:13:45","date_gmt":"2024-03-25T01:13:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lonecandle.com\/?p=13213"},"modified":"2024-03-25T01:13:46","modified_gmt":"2024-03-25T01:13:46","slug":"romantic-norms-are-in-flux-no-wonder-everyones-obsessed-with-polyamory","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lonecandle.com\/?p=13213","title":{"rendered":"Romantic norms are in flux. No wonder everyone\u2019s obsessed with polyamory."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

“There\u2019s currently a record-high share<\/a> of 40-year-old Americans who\u2019ve never been married (25 percent, as of 2021, an increase from 20 percent in 2010 and 6 percent in 1980), and according to a Pew Center study<\/a> last year, only 23 percent of Americans see marriage as essential for living a fulfilling life. More than half<\/a> of single Americans say they aren\u2019t looking for a relationship or even casual dates, largely because they enjoy singlehood or have more pressing priorities. The birthrate has been steadily falling<\/a> since the Great Recession, which the Brookings Institution argues stems from \u201cshifting priorities<\/a>\u201d rather than political or economic changes. Young people are having sex later; from 1991 to 2015, a CDC survey<\/a> found that the percentage of high schoolers who\u2019d had intercourse dropped from 54 percent to 41 percent. The reasons people are having less sex, according to the viral<\/a> \u201csex recession\u201d Atlantic feature from 2018, range from smartphone access to surveillance culture, gamified online dating, and improved awareness of boundaries and gender politics. In other words, it\u2019s likely a variety of cultural shifts that explain these changes rather than a single silver bullet.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“the pro-marriage cohort is getting louder. They cite studies that show married people are happier<\/a> and wealthier<\/a>, and are more likely to raise<\/a> happy children. New York Times columnist David Brooks last year advised<\/a> young people to \u201cobsess less about your career and to think a lot more about marriage.\u201d Economist Melissa Kearney\u2019s recent book<\/a>argues that the falling marriage rate is to blame for rising inequality<\/a>. In the face of greater political polarization between the sexes (young women are increasingly likely to be liberal, young men conservative), a recent Washington Post op-ed<\/a> suggested that \u201csomeone<\/em> will need to compromise\u201d if they ever hope to marry. (Left unasked was why, say, a woman in a post-Roe<\/em> world would ever want to date someone who did not think she deserved autonomy<\/a> over her own body.) Loudest among them is University of Virginia sociologist Brad Wilcox\u2019s book Get Married: Why Americans Must Defy the Elites, Forge Strong Families, and Save Civilization, <\/em>which claims that liberal thought leaders\u2019 denial of the importance of marriage amounts to<\/a> \u201can unusual form of hypocrisy that, however well intended, contributes to American inequality, increases misery, and borders on the immoral.\u201d”   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

https:\/\/www.vox.com\/culture\/24078524\/polyamory-open-marriage-anxiety<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

“There\u2019s currently a record-high share of 40-year-old Americans who\u2019ve never been married (25 percent, as of 2021, an increase from 20 percent in 2010 and 6 percent in 1980), and according to a Pew Center study last year, only 23 percent of Americans see marriage as essential for living a fulfilling life. More than half of single Americans say they aren\u2019t looking for a relationship or even casual dates, largely because they enjoy singlehood or have more pressing priorities. The birthrate has been steadily falling since the Great Recession, which the Brookings Institution argues stems from \u201cshifting priorities\u201d rather than political or economic changes. Young people are having sex later; from 1991 to 2015, a CDC survey found that the percentage of high schoolers who\u2019d had intercourse dropped from 54 percent to 41 percent. The reasons people are having less sex, according to the viral \u201csex recession\u201d Atlantic feature from 2018, range from smartphone access to surveillance culture, gamified online dating, and improved awareness of boundaries and gender politics. In other words, it\u2019s likely a variety of cultural shifts that explain these changes rather than a single silver bullet.”<\/p>\n

…<\/p>\n

“the pro-marriage cohort is getting louder. They cite studies that show married people are happier and wealthier, and are more likely to raise happy children. New York Times columnist David Brooks last year advised young people to \u201cobsess less about your career and to think a lot more about marriage.\u201d Economist Melissa Kearney\u2019s recent book argues that the falling marriage rate is to blame for rising inequality. In the face of greater political polarization between the sexes (young women are increasingly likely to be liberal, young men conservative), a recent Washington Post op-ed suggested that \u201csomeone will need to compromise\u201d if they ever hope to marry. (Left unasked was why, say, a woman in a post-Roe world would ever want to date someone who did not think she deserved autonomy over her own body.) Loudest among them is University of Virginia sociologist Brad Wilcox\u2019s book Get Married: Why Americans Must Defy the Elites, Forge Strong Families, and Save Civilization, which claims that liberal thought leaders\u2019 denial of the importance of marriage amounts to \u201can unusual form of hypocrisy that, however well intended, contributes to American inequality, increases misery, and borders on the immoral.\u201d” <\/p>\n

https:\/\/www.vox.com\/culture\/24078524\/polyamory-open-marriage-anxiety<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[1261,2022,1108,1098],"class_list":["post-13213","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-article-share","tag-marriage","tag-polyamory","tag-society","tag-women"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lonecandle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13213","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lonecandle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lonecandle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lonecandle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lonecandle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=13213"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lonecandle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13213\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":13214,"href":"https:\/\/lonecandle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13213\/revisions\/13214"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lonecandle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=13213"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lonecandle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=13213"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lonecandle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=13213"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}